By Trista Rundatz Edited By Justin Jones
We need to raise the bar where our expectations of women are concerned. If we want to be seen as equal, then we must strive to BE equal – not delude ourselves by lending credence to the inaccurate feedback given to us in the form of undue praise.
Media tell us we are beautiful and complete by just being ourselves – no need to strive beyond! It seems as though when constructive criticism is thrown in our direction through these, the masses cause an uproar and scream “Misogyny!”. Maybe we should take some of this criticism into consideration as opposed to whining about it?
“You-go-girl” style pats on the back from other women (for even the most trivial accomplishments) is another way to keep the bar well below what it should be. Encouraging other women is a wonderful thing, but it needs to be REALISTIC – Not wantonly doled out. Save the pats for real achievements, for real merit!
And last but certainly not least, there are the men: men who will kiss our asses if we are deemed sexually attractive, men who will place us on a pedestal, men who will try to fill our egos with nonsense in an effort to get laid or to find companionship. This collective coddling not only creates a narcissistic delusion in women (namely, that there isn’t much for us to improve upon), it also shows a real lack of faith in our abilities and potential.
Want to truly help women? Expect better of us and stop telling us we are special all the fucking time.
By Trista Rundatz
“Microaggression is a theory that hypothesizes that specific interactions between those of different races, cultures, or genders can be interpreted as small acts of mostly non-physical aggression.”
There are a few reactions to be had when one encounters a microagression. Most from what I have seen tend to ignore them completely when they are committed against them. Others find tactful or not so tactful ways of telling the offender that they may want to think before they speak next time. However, there are plenty of liberal minded folks out there who deem it fit to stand on an over-sized soapbox and proudly use shaming tactics and verbal assaults against any perceived infraction.
All too often it seems as though the infraction in question is essentially nonexistent, like its being pulled out of thin air so that the offended SJW may have a chance to feel morally superior to others. A good example of this could be cited with the recent rage over Ellen DeGeneres’ supposed trans-phobic joke at the Oscars. She poked fun at the fact that so many cross dressers impersonate Liza Minnelli, and the PC masses roared with indignant butt-hurt. The fact that cross dressers are not trans didn’t seem to factor into their collective thought process however.
It’s comical that this sort also tend to be the type of people who endorse anti-bullying campaigns with a fierce passion and zero sense of irony. Shouting people down and acting aggressive towards them when they say something you may not like doesn’t count as bullying so long as you are fighting the good fight, right?